SUFFERING FOOLS - 5th June 08 to 28th February 09
Okay I know many will say "Emotional Fitness" but you can only take so much like I did for 9 months. Take a look at a few examples.
1) Adults going in moods for 3 weeks or more over trivial matters.
2) Ignored most days,
3) 5 Horses turned out in the jumping paddock but when my two go in on their own it is too many
4) One of my horses loose in the arena is too many, but others can put 2 horses in
5) My Horses are moved without permission (causes horses to be stressed)
6) Person complains I use the arena for too long (1 hr every 7-10 days)
7) Hay is orgainised but only for a particular 3
8) Yard Owner (Suzanne Radford) way too strict, controlling, abnoxious, unpleasent to be around
9) Graffiti wrote on the side of my horsebox by those on the yard saying "Parell Shit" and more.. (A CCTV is now switched on)
10) Horsebox scratched by those on yard (Criminal Damage)
I could go on,
When I moved my horses to the yard on Welford Road, Northampton owned by Suzanne Radford. I thougth I had finally found a nice place, within 2 weeks I saw different, with 5 others you'd think it would be pleasant, but Oh Boy was I in for a surprise. The lasses were so two faced, speak to you all nice one day then talking about you behind your back the next.. At least I can say I always say to people's face what I am saying to others.
Of the list above
(Number 6). Sharon rides for 10 min in the arena and because I was in the arena with my horse one day she moaned I was in too long (I was in 1/2 hr). Nothing stopped her from coming in. Does she say anything to me, no she goes to the (SR) and moans. I mean come on for the sake of 10 min she couldn't join me? What she scared of?
(Number 7) 3rd Person (see below) orders 200 bales of hay, 60 for one person, 50 for another and 50 for herself, doesn't even ask me when she can see my hay is very low. I ask her and I am told there are 40 bales spare between 3 of us (4 horses). How selfish and unfriendly is that. I could understand on a big yard but one with only 6 people that is disgusting. Then when I ask for the phone number she doesn't give it to me.(I get numbers of others who charge more instead) I finally got the number from Sharon and got 40 bales added for myself.
Here's the fun bit. it is an understanding when the hay comes everyone helps each other, but this time the girls decide to go riding, hay turns up leaving me (with a lung disease and Gill who isn't well) to unload and stack the first 70 bales. My partner turns up to help in place of me, and eventually 40min later the other arrive to help. 3rd Person has the audacity to complain I did not help sweep up afterwards even though I carried on helping unload the other 140 bales when I did not have to.... AND...Err hello where were you when I stacked 70 bales and the fact I didn't have to do anything as my partner was there for me.. Then she goes in a mood for 3 weeks when politley challenged. Oh Lordy....
(SR) seems to think its fine for horses living in to have no hay. Thinks I am over reacting, If getting upset becausae my horses won't have hay is over reacting then yes I over react. At least it shows I care about my horses.
I was never asked to ride out with anyone and on the two rare ocasions that I did (only because I asked) I found them too dangerous to ride with (the second time being the worst). The road safety was diabolical. Riding in front of cars to stop them (seriously 3rd person really did do this, I was totally shocked), Shooting across the road on a blind corner with no signals or regards to safety to others.. to name two of many incidents.
Why am I still there? I'm not, after a miserable 9 months my emotional fitness peaked and I decided to leave which I did yesterday, there was another reason but won't go into that. I did find out things about the yard owner (SR) which I wish I knew before hand but hey its all lifes experiences.
(SR) accussed me of being "So Perfect" I told her, no I do things with good intentions and make mistakes..(I am after all only human) I don't always get things right so no I am not perfect. She should reflect on what she is saying. Self description? No longer worried about my horses (i.e. not worried about being told to move them) I spoke my mind when challenged. After lsitening to dribble, being shouted at I just told SR I couldn't be bothered with her and for her to just go away. She had her opinion and I had mine, I was leaving in a few days so leave it at that.
Then she totally stunned me. showed some maturity for the first time in 9 months by asking to shake hands. Fine with me but it wasn't gonna make me two faced and suddenly be on "Good Pal" terms with everyone. I just can't justify putting up with so much for so long then pretend it all never happened.
After all the constant rule changes and complaining I just did what was asked, but even that wasn't good enough. I am now at a place where I know people, they follow Parelli and it is so laid back I can actually relax. A few friends have said that finding a good yard is one of the hardest things to do. I was on a yard in Newcastle for 9 years approx and it was great, loved my time there.
Okay I have had my vent and that's all it is, Guess I just needed to speak my mind if only in moderation. Time to get my EM back in order and get to enjoy my horses around good friendly people. I probably wouldn't have wrote this blog if my horsebox wasn't vandalised and I hadn't received so much grief for so long.
* 3rd person's name removed as she is the only one of the three that is not harrasssing me with threatening phone calls and voice messages.